So, needless to say it’s been a while since my last post. No excuse will do but I’m hoping that by writing this blog it will shed some light on what I have been up to for the past few weeks.
Students and workpeople (work mules, slaves of the industry, puppets, ants, monkey sees monkey do, you catch my drift), have one thing in common. Unless you’re stepping into a family business or have a trust fund (a few curse words come to mind), you’ll at some point be forced to hunt for a job. Now I can guarantee you, it might seem exciting and empowering at first, but don’t be fooled.
Looking for a job is a little like being a deer caught in headlights. Urban Dictionary moment: Deer caught in headlights: A mental state of high arousal caused by anxiety, fear, panic, surprise and/or confusion, or substance abuse. Example: Mike doesn’t like cars; he’s like a deer in headlights when he goes to his driving lessons.
To clarify, my experience was of anxiety not substance abuse, just saying. Back to the subject now. You dress up smart, give yourself a little pep talk on the way to the interview and lay yourself bare for judgement. Yet somehow they always end up asking you a question for which you have no prepared answer and start doubting your capabilities.
It usually ends with you walking out of the interview feeling like you’ve got to tell your mother you failed a test again to receive the horrendous “I’m not angry, just disappointed” speech. Why are mother’s so damn good at guilt tripping speeches, I think there’s an annual secret convention where they all practice and drink too many dirty martini’s.
Job hunting is a little like dating, but worse.. BLIND dating. Both sides have never met, but you are the one who has to do most of the convincing to make it a happy marriage.
You’re whole future (maybe not all of it but 8 hours a day is pretty damn much), depends on the impression you leave on the first person you meet. It’s a tricky business, you’re either too assertive, too confident, too quiet, too funny, not compatible, .. the list is endless.
The point of this blog is that although you will be judged and feel beaten or low at times, I urge you to keep the following in mind:
- NEVER ever take anything personal (hardest part of the process).
- Look at this point in your life as an OPPORTUNITY: you spend more time at work than at home, so make sure you pick a job that will empower you in a stimulating environment.
- Even if you don’t feel 100% convinced of a job but they invite you for an interview GO! Practice makes perfect, and the more people you meet, the bigger your professional network becomes.
- At the end of the day, it is YOU who will make the decision whether or not to take a the job.
- NEGOTIATION is key. Set your goals upfront and stick to them! If you don’t you will regret it within the first few weeks.
If all else fails, a glass of wine, shopping spree, bath with facemask or good cry will alleviate the stresses of a bad interview.
Do not lose hope, keep all negative thoughts at bay and do not let yourself be bullied in to making rash decisions by people around you. Take your time and consider all your options. Patience is a virtue my children.